We all know that one guy too well. He isn’t around when you really need him and turns up everywhere you are, when you don’t want to see his face. Some ex-boyfriends just have a knack for slyly resurfacing, just when you think you’re over the whole episode with them. It’s like you do everything in your power to deal with the heartache – you go out with the girls, you swipe right a hundred times, you take that solo trip to Himachal – and when you finally feel like you’ve washed that man out of your hair – beep! goes your cell phone. And he’s creeped his way back into your inbox. Again. With his “Hey, I’ve been thinking about you…” or “Hey, how are you doing?” And you sit there thinking… “Not today, Satan. Not today!”
Hearing from an ex that you were actually in love with and had a difficult time getting over, is often stirring. Especially if he ended it and you weren’t ready. But the good news is, that now you are! You’re ready to deal with this head on, without succumbing to his scheming, indecisive ways. If you’re still on the fence about whether or not this problematic dude needs a second (or fifth) chance, here’s what you need to keep in mind, before walking down that road again…
1. Trust Is Lost
It’s cliché but true – All relationships are built on trust, and once there’s a major crack, it’s hard to start over without a doubtful mind.
2. Your Friends Will Give Up On You
All the friends that backed your decision to move on and helped you through the process will feel let down. Though some may support you despite no matter what your final call is, they will feel like all their efforts were in vain.
3. Baggage Comes Back
You broke up for a reason. Though you may remember the good times, once you get back with an ex, the past tends to catch up, leading you to realise why you decided to separate in the first place.
4. He Might Be Taking You For Granted
He ditched you when you wanted him, and now he’s back. There could be many theories to this – he could be lonely, he could be taking you for granted etc. That’s not a happy place to be, in a relationship.
