If you haven’t experienced it, don’t judge people who have. Because believe it or not–there are an awful lot of folks who having feelings for two people at once. While there was an apparent stigma around this in the yesteryears; these days, with the kind of access and opportunity we have to meeting new people and making “connections,” our generation is more likely to face this dilemma.
But is it really possible to genuinely be (equally) emotionally invested in two people at the same time? Or are we just indecisive, frivolous souls, who want butter on both sides of our bread? Well, top psychologists say the answer: a 100% yes–you can love two people at once.
According to reports in a popular tabloid, Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D., clinical psychologist and a professor of psychology at UCLA, confirms this. She said, “We assume love comes in one flavor, but it’s really much more Baskin Robbins than that. We are complex and complicated beings, and it’s very possible that two different traits in two different people can both appeal to us.” Attraction is a very biological experience, says Durvasula. “You may be in an established relationship and meet someone at work who WHAM! makes your hormones crazy. It’s possible!”
When asked how such a situation should be dealt with, she said: “Feeling torn between two people can be confusing and emotionally exhausting-but it can also be fun and addictive. While continuing to explore both love interests might be a valid option if all of the people involved are on the same page and no feelings are hurt, there is one secret – We get caught up in the passion and rush of feeling in love, but companionate love wins in the end!”
So, stop drowning in guilt. You’re not alone…
